Marriage is a big deal, no doubt. A couple of months ago, we spoke to couple of Nigerian women who lament settling on the decision to commit their lives to one partner.
We talked with a couple of Nigerian men about the same. They needed to say this.
1. Zayn
I didn't conceive that getting married would make them spending this much money. I've been married for over of four years at this point, and from my ₦720k Salary, I spend over ₦100k each and every week dealing with both my family nuclear and my wife's nuclear family. I couldn't actually start to let you know how troubled every one of that makes me.
2. David
I've been married for less than two years, yet I'm continually searching for ways out of this marriage. My wife is unhappy with me. We never at any point have any meaningful conversation except if I'm going to work on something for her.
I've taken a stab at adapting to the absence of love for very nearly two years now, yet it doesn't appear to be ending any time soon. It likewise doesn't help that she displays very poor physical hygiene; that makes it two things I'm battling to adapt to. Assuming I had right out of the marriage this moment, I'd take that risk.
3. Korede
I can't stand my wife. She makes me need to hurl. I disdain how her vagina feels and I disdain that she even glances at me. The main thing I like about our union is the children. They look like me. Before we got married, she treated me like shit, yet I accepted that after we got married, everything would change.
She was beautiful, so I simply believed it's that thing beautiful women do. The greatest mistake of my life was wedding her since she saw the way that I stayed with her, in any event, when she dealt with me like shit, as desperation. Presently, I need to step out one day and simply disappear forever and begin another life, yet I can't do it since I would rather not lose my children. Thus, I guess I'm staying.
4. Chinedu
I got married at 27, however I feel like I was not thinking about myself and my future when I did it. I got married because it seemed like the ok thing to do after to being with my high school sweetheart for almost 10 years.
Now that we live together, everything seems normal but deep down there are so many character traits she that I wish to change. Perhaps those character traits are enough ground for a divorce, but rather they're enough to rethink the entire essence of our marriage.
Something else that makes me lament getting married is money. I'd totally be a baller on the off chance that I had all my income to myself. However, I need to share. Toward the day's end however, my children make it all worth it.
5. Mo
My wife and I have been separated for just about two years now. We dated for around five years before we got married, and beginning of our marriage, things went pretty well. At the point when we began having our couple fights, I thought things planned to blow over, yet they only got worse. The major source of my wife issues is her mum. My wife doesn't have friends; the only person she's close with is her mum. Her mum began offering her a terrible advice that only made things worse. The quarrels proceeded and afterward she started sleeping around.
As of late, she made me pay for couple's counselling to make sure we can get things working for our kid. In practically no time before we were intended to have our first counselling session, I figured out she was jumping around lodgings in Lagos with a man wedded with three children. I even stupidly called the fellow and advised him to back off my family. On the morning of our counselling session, I was at her home as soon as 6:50 a.m. to get her. The other guy was there as well. I flew off the handle, and we some way or another wound up at a police headquarters where I needed to sign an undertaking not to move close to her or our kid once more — a limiting request. I can't really understand the way that I can't see my kids. In all of this, her mum champion her on and completely and openly supports all that she does, even the sleeping around.
Before all of this, I tried to get her a car. We went to a car dealership together and I told her to pick a car however she said she wanted the cash equivalent of whatever car she picked. Be that as it may, maybe she had any plan to stay. She was just trying to extort me.
The main thing that pushes me along is the way that I have a child with her.
6. T
I'm 33 at this point. I got married at 27 and I lament getting married so young. If I could return, I would hold off getting married till I turn 40. At the point when I see my friends linking up with babes, however I'm here stayed with the Mrs, it quite depressing. In the event that your wife really adores you, it's pleasant having somebody waiting for you at home. However, the major thing that makes marriage tolerable is feeling the genuine love your kids have for you. That's what nothing beats.
Other than that, keeping a home and doing stuff like paying children's school fees are over the top expensive. I can't put myself first or purchase stuff for myself.